AEC- I Decide

The Choices You Make Today, Will DECIDE Your Tomorrow!

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The Abstinence Education Council receives Stewart’s Shops Holiday Match Grant

May 17, 2013

This year’s grant from Stewart’s Shops Holiday Match will be used for Mother and Daughter Pure Fashion shows and Teas to be held at the Remember When Café in New Berlin, NY.
West Oneonta, NY –   On July 7, 2013, the charming Remember When Café will be the site of another Mother/Daughter Pure Fashion Show and Tea for 8-12 year old girls.  The Abstinence Education Council works to reduce high risk behaviors among young people in Central NY. We are deeply grateful for the help and support of Stewart’s Shops Holiday Match Grant.
The goal of the Pure Fashion shows is to encourage our girls to be conscious of their dignity and to raise their self-respect.  Girls pick and model their own outfits following our guidelines. Games, music, storytelling and prizes, plus the fashion show and delicious desserts from Remember When’s menu are part of the afternoon’s fun.
All local girls and their mothers or guardians are invited, but seating is limited. Reservations should be made by June 15.
Plans are also underway for a Back-to-School Pure Fashion Show for teens ages 13-18 in the late summer.
For more information, please contact Arline Saiki at 607-433-1730 or at

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Winter 2013 update

March 10, 2013
We have applied for the Stewart's Shop Holiday Match grant again, as well as the WGY/Curtis Lumber Christmas Wish grant which we won last year. For some reason we did not receive the generous $400 until November, although it was sent out sometime in early July. We truly appreciate the support we get from the local community and from the churches, particularly Main St. Baptist Church and Burlington Flats Baptist Church. We are sorry that one of our biggest supporters, St. Mary's Respect LIfe C...
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Merry Christmas and a Joyous New Year!

December 30, 2012
Thanks to all for your help and support this year!

Our Circle of Friends girls' club in Burlington Flats continues to meet, usually monthly. We have several new girls this year. 
We were again invited to Binghamton University to have a table at their Community Fair. Because all high risk behaviors can cause cancer, we used that as our theme and a woman passing by made the remark "good approach". We have great material from Humana for teens through adults. Please let me know if you would like us...

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Love is patient banner

December 3, 2012
New banner for our "What is Love" program coming up in Ilion in February!

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Jeremiah 29:11 - our magnet

December 3, 2012
I caught Justin Bieber's mom (Pattie Mallett) on Fox News yesterday, talking about her new book, "Nowhere, But Up.". She was speaking about her very dysfunctional wild life, her drug and sexual abuse, her attempted suicide, and her life as an unwed mother. She was not a believer, but while she was in the hospital recovering from her attempt at suicide, she read Jeremiah 29:11 (given to her by a Christian counselor) and it turned her life around. I can't wait to read her story!

Jeremiah 29:11 w...
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M.O.M. Model, Organizer, Mentor totebag

November 16, 2012
Large tote bag M.O.M. suggested donation $10  (value $14.95)
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Fall Update - AEC featured on today!

November 15, 2012
AEC was unexpectedly suddenly invited to be interviewed on the internet's program. I was able to give out information about our organization and our initiatives like the M.O.M., Model, Organizer, Mentor workbook that we are working on and the "Trash Cancer" program which we have started to work with. I was also able to give out information like the fact that one out of four adults by the age of 25, will get an STD and one out of 10 couples are infertile and that STDs can cau...
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Yahoo! Women Who Shine and AEC announcement!

October 2, 2012
We are very excited and honored to have been nominated for the Yahoo! Women Who Shine award!  The story behind this nomination is one we too often hear 
Many thanks to Angela Sellari of for nominating us! Angela and I are both members of the online group Social moms which is made up of thousands of mom bloggers. I was also invited to nominate someone and I nominated Haley Kilpatrick of "Girl Talk". I ...

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Yahoo! Women Who Shine

September 20, 2012

I am very excited to have been offered the opportunity to nominate someone for the"Yahoo Women Who Shine" Award and I have selected Haley Kilpatrick, social entrepreneur, founder of the "Girl Talk" program and author of "The Drama Years" (which I highly recommend for tweens and their parents). I am very interested in implementing this program locally.
I first "found" Haley early this year in a magazine article. Because AEC works to reduce high risk behaviors, I am always on the looko...

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AEC Summer 2012 Updates

August 31, 2012
AEC- I Decide – Quick Updates
August 30, 2012
I decided that the best way to send out info on what we are doing is in short notes. Summer is a really busy season for us and this year, with my very romantic older daughter’s wedding to a very romantic (and wonderful) young man, has been particularly busy.
We had tables and booths at many venues, several weeks at Bainbridge park;  Spirit Fest and the Blueberry Festival in Coventry; Spiedie Fest in Binghamton and the Otsego County Fair ...

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May 11, 2012

Tara Coles is the recipient of the grand prize package of the Moms In Business Grant.  The press release is online at

Congratulations to Tara!  We are sorry we didn't win but Tara did an amazing job. She just blew everyone away with her energy, her generosity and her social media skills. She really deserved this prize.

AEC did raise over $2000 and I learned so much from trying to pick up social media. I have dozens of followers on Twitter now and offers for help from a few of them.

Next on our schedule is a table at the Good Shepherd Episcopal Church's health fair in Binghamton. We were part of it last year and our band "Treasure" will be playing again. I will (hopefully) remember my camera and take pics.

God bless,

April 27, 2012,

Lots of challenges when it comes to abstinence education. I've been taking many webinars and getting lots of coaching from them and from Gina Robison at Moms in Business and today I got this e-mail when I inquired about a mentor with one group. I asked them if I could put it on my blog without giving their name because it is so illustrative of what we face.

Dear Arline,

Thank you for your email.  I’m glad you found the webinar useful.

As to getting a mentor, I can assure you we are trying hard to find one for you.  However, it is proving quite a challenge as the aims of the organization you represent are not acceptable to some people – in fact, I have already had 3 potential mentors turn you down as a mentee. I will keep trying though and hope to find one for you eventually.

I hope this clarifies matters.



Thank you so much for your help and your frank reply. I certainly appreciate the fact that you are willing to help us as this is exactly the problem we face. Many people will not tolerate our organization despite the fact that we help girls avoid the consequences of promiscuity and unwed motherhood, which are: sexually transmitted diseases (and diseases like cancer which result), heartbreak, depression, infertility, and lifelong poverty, not to mention the impact of these problems on subsequent generations. We realize that it is ignorance of the reality of the results of poor life choices and the fact that most people live their lives and make their decisions based on agendas which are primarily aimed at being politically correct and/or for profit. The peculiar thing is that there are few people, if any, in this atmosphere who would condemn anti-smoking campaigns or programs which teach good citizenship. Yet, abstinence is all about self-respect, self-control, and goal-setting, vital skills for every walk of life and in any and all situations.

I know that this is not everyone's viewpoint however, as illustrated by our acceptance as semi-finalists for the second year in a row with the National Moms In Business Crowdfunding Grant competition and by your own assistance and by funding from such groups as the Stewart Shops Foundation.

Thank you again for your assistance.




 Abstinence Education Council 2013

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