AEC- I Decide

  The Choices You Make Today, Will DECIDE Your Tomorrow!

Newsletter ONLINE  Summer 2015

Abstinence Education Council- Summer Newsletter 2015

We will again be at the Otsego County Fair – August 4-10. Our theme is: “Romance begins with R – Respect and Responsibility”. I used a photo from my younger daughter’s wedding pictures last year. There will also be a poster (with their ring exchange photo!) with the Brookings Institution study on the fact that poverty can be avoided by three things: 1. Graduate from high school. 2. Get a full time job and 3. Wait until 21 to marry and have your children after marriage.

Many thanks to Sportique and the Pivoda family for their donations and discounts on Sportique products. Sportique is an all natural line of lotions and creams aimed at athletes, but great for anyone for chafing and dry skin in particular. We are offering the wonderful body butters for $9 (reg. $29.95). We also have some honey and coconut oil. Please contact me if you are interested.  

We are still trying to Girl Talk into Oneonta, we have the leaders, but we need middle school girls. If anyone has a girl’s group, please contact us. We would like to do a four week trial program in September. This program has been funded by Stewart’s Shops this year as we were again recipients of their grant.  

We are making a Dating/Relationships tips short for Youtube – We shot the first one this week with Nikki Holdridge. Many thanks to Mary Laden for the use of her home and to Bernadette Burke for filming for us.   Nikki did a program on Dating at Holy Cross Church in Morris in April for sub-teen girls, which went very well.

I have a new mentor at the Aspire Foundation. I am hoping that she will give us advice on building the Board. We need new Board members. Members from previous years are eligible. Most meetings will be by telephone. Please contact me as soon as possible, if you can help us out.   Aspire is having a luncheon in mid-August in London, England and has invited me to speak on a video about AEC. This will be a wonderful opportunity to introduce Nikki and to let this international organization know about AEC’s work.  

The ice cream social at Good Shepherd Episcopal Church in Binghamton on June 6, went very well. It was covered by Deborah and Vince Ferraccioli. UHS, Lourdes Hospital, Life Choices Center, Rescue Mission were also there.   We had hoped that The Hope Tent at the Spiedie Fest in Binghamton would be revived this year, but it was again cancelled, due to lack of funds.   AEC had a table at The Hope Teen Challenge - Bike Run in Binghamton last week covered by Deborah and Vince Ferraccioli. Unfortunately, there was poor turnout due to the bad weather. Our band “Treasure” played (and were also seen on Fox News)


Newsletter ONLINE  Winter 2015 

 

Abstinence Education Council- Winter Newsletter 2015

My apologies for the tardiness of this newsletter. I have been waiting for final word on the excellent candidate we have for the job of AEC Director. References etc. had to be checked, but I am very happy to announce that Nicole Holdridge will be taking over as AEC Director. She has already been volunteering with me for the past several weeks and she is a gem. She recently graduated with a 3.99 average from Roberts Wesleyan College in December. In 2010, Nikki was named the Section 4 Class D Player of the Year in basketball. She was Student Council President and Salutatorian of her high school and was a Delaware County Dairy Princess. She is bright, hard working and passionate. AEC is proud and happy to welcome her to our organization. I have been meeting with her weekly to work out programs and fundraising and I will continue to help her in anyway that I can over the next several months.

Nicole has already helped us out at Circle of Friends last month in Burlington Flats and gave a wonderful, inspiring talk about how special each person is and about the unique gifts we have. Unfortunately, due to the bad weather, she couldn't make it to the new program which I did at St. Malachy's Church in Sherburne, but we are grateful again for help from volunteer Jane Schultz (who also handmade purity bookmarks to hand out to the teens). This program is for teenagers and can be given for both boys and girls. It's a two hour program called "Facts vs. Culture", with clips from the video "From Top Model to Role Model". It can be either secular or religious and we are adjusting it for any denomination. We were very happy at how well it went at St. Malachy's and we have been invited to run it at St. Joseph's in West Winfield this spring.

Nicole is developing a talk on how to date, which I'm sure is a real topic of interest for young people.

We have been working on some fundraisers for AEC and we will be sending out more detailed information soon. Nicole is also going to open an Ebay store for us and offer some of the jewelry and other things that we have received from friends, family and supporters. The donations of Body Butter from Sportique were great (many thanks to the Pivodas) and I have gotten nothing but raves from the people who bought them (I didn't have that many so I just sent an email out to a few people). Hopefully we can get more. They smell wonderful; they are all natural; and they are great for dry skin.

We will also be back at Good Shepard Episcopal Church's Ice Cream Social and Health Fair in Binghamton, June 6 from 12- 3 PM. Our next Circle of Friends meeting is March 27.

Please let me know if you are interested in having Nicole come and speak or if you would like the teen program. We are also still hoping to start up Girl Talk clubs in the area as well and have a couple of possibilities in mind.

 

Blessings to all,

 

Arline Saiki

 

Newsletter ONLINE  Fall 2014     

Abstinence Education Council- Fall Newsletter 2014
 
As per my previous newsletter, I was very interested in the “Fiver” camp program over in Poolville as I hoped to  connect with them because these are essentially the same goals we have, character education, and teaching ethical behavior, and communication skills (character education programs increase the likelihood of abstinence by 90%). “Fiver” has all the elements which are necessary for a successful program including extended interactions with the kids (two weeks a year for 10 years).  I met with Christine Ko, the Director. to see if we might be able to work together. She was actually interested in what we are doing and agreed that we have essentially the same goals. However, unfortunately, their program works with Planned Parenthood to teach "safer sex". It is so sad that a multi-million dollar program which is in our backyard is an inaccessible resource for us.
We had two good possibilities this summer for a new Director for AEC, but both were looking for full-time positions.
We had a pretty good reception at both the Broome and the Otsego County Fair. And we had some people interested in starting "Girl Talk" in their areas, but some did not work out and one lady and her daughter are not going to be able to do this, due to some personal complications.
Edmeston Girl Talk is having some difficulties starting up because of scheduling conflicts with the high school and middle school girls we had lined up. We are re-grouping and looking at other possible approaches.
We again had a table at the Binghamton University’s Center for Civic Engagement’s Community Fair  and had 19 girls sign up to volunteer, but the response stopped when I asked them to fill out the application form which has a statement of Faith on it. I’m not sure what to do as we have to be extremely careful of whom we accept as volunteers because of all the problems we are having in our culture. Right now, all of our volunteers are people we know well . It was disappointing, but we are hoping that at least a couple of them will work out.
We again had a table at the Village of the Vine Heath and Wellness Center Health Fair. There were about 100 people there . The event went very well with Christian rock music, a clown, a bounce house and some health talks scheduled. This is also the location for Edmeston Girl Talk and we are so grateful to the Pearlmutters for their help and support.
Circle of Friends started up again in October . We had a great group of about 19 girls.
At the moment we are set for a program again at St. Malachy's in Sherburne in early February and at St. Mary's in Oneonta in the spring for several sessions and I just got a request from the Albany area, which is outside of our geographical reach, but I have not been able to reach the woman who I met last year at the NY State Right to Life conference  to get more details.
I am going to try to put some pictures up with this email. We have a new volunteer, psychologist Karina Romero, who is now on our Advisory Board as well. She helped us out at our booth at Binghamton University and is helping with the program at St. Malachy's.
Many thanks as usual to Main St. Baptist Church, Burlington Flats Baptist Church, Janet Anderson, David Buddle and Jim Gutierrez for their generous donations and/or support this quarter. The grant we got from the Gould Foundation was a God-send, but unfortunately, they usually only repeat donations every three years, so we will aim for that.
I was able to attach some pictures. The first one is from the Otsego County Fair Booth; the second one is with Karina at Binghamton University and the the third one is with the Circle of Friends.
 
God bless,
Arline Saiki
God bless,
Arline Saiki

 


Spring 2014 -  update


(My apologies for the tardiness of this newsletter. I was out of town helping relatives due to illness for a couple of months which kept me really busy and now I am preparing for my younger daughter's wedding in a few weeks.)

I am continuing as Acting Director of AEC until we find a replacement. We had four applicants, but two of them were problematic due to having views different than the ones that we espouse. The other two are still possibilities, but we would appreciate it if you would let us know if you know anyone who would like to take on this mission. 

Our February program at the Berean Bible Church went very well. We had about 40 kids of all ages, both boys and girls and we split them up into 4 different groups. Linda Reese again did her program on skin care, make up and how to dress and many thanks to Rose Hogan and Jean Jones for running the program for the 8-12 year old boys.

We are happy to announce that we with the Gould Foundation grant we have started the "Girl Talk" program in our area and we started a small pilot program 2 weeks ago in Edmeston. We were blessed to find a bright, talented, energetic young lady (Rachel Squiers) to be our leader for the pilot and she will also lead it for the summer program we are planning. Unfortunately, she is going away to college this fall (U. of Albany), but we have someone in mind for the fall. We are holding it at the Village of the Vine Health and Wellness Center which was the site of the health fair we held last September. Our first group is small, only 4 girls, but they seemed to have enjoyed the program so we are hopeful that others will come for the summer. We also have plans to start the program in Stamford and there is a possibility in Oneonta.

We were also again recipients of the Stewart's Shops Holiday Match grant and are waiting to hear about the WGY Christmas Wish grant which is distributed in July. 

We will again be at Good Shepherd Episcopal Church's Ice Cream Social and Health Fair, this Saturday, June 7th in Binghamton from 12 - 3 PM. The event is free and all are welcome!

Our banner and theme for this year's Otsego County Fair is ready to go and I hope that you will like it. I have been wanting to use this for a while, but couldn't find appropriate graphics. You can pick up copies which we made into bookmarks at the fair which is July 28th to August 3rd at the fairgrounds in Morris. 

Earn a little cash and help AEC! 

If you have ever wanted to be part of a focus group, you can earn a little money in your spare time at home and help AEC by signing up here https://panel.op4g.com/members/new?code=supportaecWe get a dollar for every sign up and the group that signs up the most people can win $1000. After signing up, you choose how much of the money you earn doing surveys goes to AEC (25% and up). 

Sadly, as of last year, the Hope Tent is no longer going to be part of the Spiedie Fest as the organizers were not able to get the volunteers they needed. Also, the summer program we did at the Methodist Church was suspended due to the (hopefully temporary) unavailability of the Director.

We are hoping to have the Sky Family of Prince Edwards Island come in September to do their Celtic revival program, but are looking for a proper place at this time. Any help would be appreciated.

Blessings and many thanks for your help and support.

  

Announcements - March 2014

AEC is happy to announce that we have just been awarded $1000 from St. Paul's Episcopal Church's Gould Fund  in Endicott, NY to implement the anti-bullying "Girl Talk" program. We are presently in discussion with several groups for a four week pilot program.  We are delighted and thankful for this assistance in this fantastic middle school girls program.

Additionally, Stewart's Shops Holiday Match Grant has again awarded us $250 for our programs in areas served by Stewart Shops. Most recently we ran a "Beauty In and Out program in New Berlin and a relationship program in Sherburne, NY, plus we continue to work with Circle of Friends in Burlington Flats. Many thanks to Stewart's Shops Holiday Match for making these programs possible.

A note of thanks for our premier ongoing supporters Main Street Baptist Church in Oneonta, NY, Burlington Flats Baptist Church, in Burlington Flats and Village of the Vine in Edmeston, NY plus our many individual supporters without which we could not continue. Special thanks to Binghamton University as well, for the many opportunities which they continue to offer to us.

Newsletter ONLINE  Winter 2014                                                             

Abstinence Education Council- Winter Newsletter 2014

Dr. O’Connell continues to invest a great deal of time and energy into trying to form a community group to invest in character building in our area. His next meeting is in the latter half of March in Cooperstown. Please let me know if you would like to be part of this effort.

I attempted to promote the “Girl Talk” program to Morris Central School, but after I sent the program to them, they would not answer my emails. I am puzzled as this program is complete, easy to implement and has, as I was pleased to discover through a recent webinar on mentoring from Search Institute, all the important elements for reaching kids and impacting their lives. It has older (college or high school seniors/juniors) models; involves the school and the community; has specific character building elements; is fun; is contemporary; and is effective. There are some possibilities in the Binghamton area that I am working on, but would love to have it in our area.

We joined Laurens School’s French club’s fundraiser with a table promoting AEC and offered some of our products for a donation at the Elk’s club in Oneonta on November 10. It was a good opportunity to get a little visibility. Many thanks to Mary Laden for her help.

November 15th, we had a nice turnout of 20 girls at Circle of Friends. We seem to be getting more girls regularly at these programs and the Dec. 13th program was also very well attended.

Our “Beauty In and Out” program for teen girls at St. Theresa’s church basement in New Berlin, November 16th went very well with 12 girls from the area including some from Oneonta. With image consultant Linda Reese, we covered attractiveness and how to use makeup sparingly as well as making clothing choices.  Many thanks to Linda and to Bin Lin, a Binghamton University student who drove up to help as well as several mothers who joined us.

November 17th, I gave a program to the 12 and 13 year old religious ed students at St. Malachy’s Church in Sherburne with the help of retired teacher Jane Schultz. We had a mixed group of boys and girls and talked about how the problems with media influence and porn affect us, and (because this was a religious setting), what God requires of us, as His children. The program went well and we received the personal thanks of the pastor.

We have again applied for the Stewart’s Shops Holiday Match grant and WGY’s Christmas Wish grant. Applications go out in January and we usually get a response from Stewart’s shops in about a month. WGY’s response comes in June.

I met a woman from the Albany area in October at the Right to Life conference in Oneonta. She passed our information on to a Christian bookstore in Latham and they contacted me to encourage us to have a fundraiser with a Canadian family singing group with which they are involved.  We will be discussing this at the next Board meeting.

We are busily preparing for a major event at the Berean Bible Church in Greene. I met the woman who runs the Heritage Girls Troop there at the Spirit Fest this past summer. She had asked me to do our “What is Beauty” program for her troop, but since that time, she has been talking up AEC and the program has become an event for ages 8-18, both boys and girls. So we are calling it “The Character Games” and it is going to be a full and busy night, again with image consultant Linda Reese running the teen girls program with help for the fashion show from BU students Arielle Cravatta and Bin Lin. We will have the “What is Beauty” program for the 8-11 year old girls, a new “How to be a Hero” program for the 8-11 year old boys and “Media Madness” (basically our relationship program for the teen boys) as well as a video with football exercises and talks on character featuring Bill Parcells and some top football players. We are fortunate to have help from Michelle Whitbeck, Rose Hogan and Jean Jones as well as Doug Whitbeck.

I have made up bookmarks “A Real Man Commits” and “A Real Woman Nurtures” and will be handing them out at the program. So far, the people that I have shown them to have liked them very much. I’ve made the banner for the Real Man for the upcoming summer fairs as I found some great discounts from Vistaprint through Groupon.

We have 3 candidates for the position of Director and I am looking forward to meeting them. Please pray for AEC!

Abstinence Education Council - Fall Newsletter 2013
The Health and Wellness Fair at Village of the Vine in Edmeston on Sept. 21 went extremely well. The speakers and presentations were wonderful and those who were there all expressed an interest in more programs. Vendors were already talking about coming next year. Of special note was Dr. O’Connell’s presentation on enlisting community help to implement the character building program which he used to great success in the Alleghenies, increasing SAT scores and reducing discipline problems by nearly 30% in 1 year with continuing success in subsequent years. This program led to another meeting of local schools and other community leaders on Oct. 11 and there will be a follow-up meeting in Oneonta on November 8. Please contact me if you are interested in coming to the meeting.
Oct. 3-we were again invited to the Binghamton University Center for Civic Engagement’s Community Fair. 10 volunteers signed up, but we have to be careful as to where and how we have them help us due to the abuse problem. One girl contacted me this summer and helped me at the fair and has continued to keep in contact. She and two other girls are trying to get the Girl Talk program into the middle schools in the area. I also just contacted a local afterschool program to see if we can possibly do it there.
We were approached by the Gould Fund to apply for their yearly grant and I sent off an application Oct. 4. They will not have funds until January, but they told us that our programs are a perfect fit for their grant.
Oct. 19-we were invited to have a table at the NY State Right to Life Conference. I am writing up some highlights of what were some very important talks. Please let me know if you would like a copy. We got a lot of attention and received donations for a lot of our offerings, especially the “Princess and the Kiss” and the “Squire and the Scroll” books, as well as our M.O.M. products and our Bee Pure raw honey.  Many, many thanks to Mary Laden, Jean Jones and Rose Hogan for their help, I could not have done this without them! And it was truly a great pleasure to finally meet in person Janet Anderson, a great supporter for many years.
Nov. 10 – we will be at the Laurens school’s French club benefit at the Elks club in Oneonta from 10-3. Please come by and support us.
Nov. 15 – Circle of Friends in Burlington Flats
Nov. 16 – we are going to prepare our teens for an upcoming fashion show with “Beauty: In and Out.” Image consultant Linda Reese will be our special guest speaker on clothing choices and Distinguished Toastmaster Gloria Gibbon will speak on the importance of communication. The program will be held in the basement of St. Theresa’s Church in New Berlin from 5:30 PM to about 8 PM. Pizza and salad will be served. This program is made possible by a grant from Stewart Shops Holiday Match grant. Registration for this program can be made through wib@aec-idecide.org or call us at 607-433-1730.
Dec. 8 – Tentative date for our Christmas Angels fashion show for our teens.

Announcement:
After 8 years as the Director of the Abstinence Education Council, I will be stepping down from this position at the end of February after completing several commitments that I have. I am very grateful to all who have supported this ministry and hope that you will continue to do so as I know that we have positively impacted lives. I will continue on the Advisory Board and replace the late Anne Timmins, who was such a blessing to us. We are presently beginning a search for a new director. AEC’s Board will be sending out information to the local churches. If you know anyone who might be interested please let them know or contact us at this email address. Thank you so much for your help and support.

Arline Saiki
Volunteer Jean with a "customer" at the Broome County Fair
Abstinence Education Council - Summer 2013 Newsletter
Summers are always busy for the Abstinence Education Council. 27 people filled the beautiful Remember When Café for our July 7, Mother/Daughter Pure Fashion Show and Tea for 8-12 year old girls. Everyone was thrilled with the venue, the delicious desserts and our presentation of “The Princess and the Kiss” with teens Joshua Wilson and Jessica Fowler from Binghamton and the fashion show with our fantastic MC, Kendra Dutkowsky from Cooperstown was a big hit. We had some unexpected teen guests as well and they are looking forward to our upcoming “Back-to-School Pure Fashion show for the 13-18 year olds in the late summer or early fall.. 
Saturday found us at the Spirit Fest in Coventry, where we were invited by the American Heritage Girls from Greene to be part of their “Pure” lock-in in February.  July 19 and 20, we will have a table at St. Malachy’s yard sale in Sherburne.
For the first time this year, we are planning a booth at the Broome County Fair (July 23-28), followed the week after by the Otsego County Fair (July 30-August 6) and August 24 we will again be at the Landmark Church’s block party in Binghamton.
PLEASE MARK YOUR CALENDARS - Sept. 21, we will be holding a health fair with Village of the Vine in Edmeston, NY.  We are planning several events, with speakers on health issues, vendors, a 5 K, events for children and a cook-off!  Registration for talks will be online.
Sept. 20th or Sept. 27th, the first day for Circle of Friends at the Burlington Flats Baptist Church
We were again recipients of a $250 grant from the Stewart’s Shops Holiday Match and of a $400 grant from the WGY/Curtis Lumber Christmas Wish Campaign. Many thanks to them and to our faithful supporters, particularly Main St. Baptist Church in Oneonta and the Burlington Flats Baptist Church, as well as all our individual supporters whom we have listed on our website. For many years, we had a lot of help and support from St. Mary’s Respect Life Committee, under the leadership of Reuben James and are sorry that with Reuben’s illness and with the aging membership that the group is no longer operating at this time. Our thanks and prayers go out to Reuben's wife and family.
I entered a competition with the Wayman Publishing Company’s upcoming Parenthood Anthology and my piece “An Attitude of Gratitude” (part of our upcoming M.O.M. book) was accepted. We hope that the publicity will generate interest in our book which is (slowly) coming along with Aspire mentor Anne Archer’s help. Some mom bloggers have also agreed to give us some stories and they are starting to come in. We would love to have yours! Drop us a line, if you would like to contribute.

Many thanks to all, for your prayers and support.
Arline Saiki
Director
Abstinence Education Council

The Abstinence Education CouncilC O M M E N T S
PO Box G, West Oneonta, NY 13861 – 607/433-1730 –

info@aec-idecide.org
Volume No. 6                         Issue 18                                   Spring 2012  
Newsletter ONLINE

It has been suggested that we change our newsletter format and make it shorter and more frequent -  after polling several people, we decided to try this. I will continue to put a longer version online.
February 18  - M.O.M.-  workshop went very well –
with 9 participants. The program was inspired by Dr. Benjamin Carson’s mother and the workshop in turn inspired our project, a book on M.O.M- Model, Organizer, Mentor for this year’s Moms in Business Crowdfunding grant competition. We are again semi-finalists PLEASE NOTE:  there were some changes in the contest and it is ending April 30, so you can still support us with a donation. We have 30 supporters so far and have reached 30% of our goal. It would be wonderful if we could get some more support. You can go to Peerbackers.com and register and then click on back project for the Abstinence Education Council. We are getting some great donations of both money and stories.

“What is Beauty” workshop for girls 8 to 12, in Sherburne at St. Malachy’s Church Hall on March 31 was very successful with 12 in attendance. We are making plans for doing this in Oneonta in the fall.
Our conference on character education with Dr. O’Connell on April 25, was unfortunately, not well-attended, but the material was great and I am hoping to get the attendees help to bring it to Oneonta.                                                                     
      Arline Saiki, Director
Budget- I am waiting for a more detailed presentation of our budget, but briefly our income is about $3000/year from donations from Main St. Baptist Church, St. Mary’s Respect Life, Afton Baptist Church, Burlington Flats Baptist Church, Stewart’s Shops and about 30 individuals plus sales of products. Fixed expenses are accountant $300/year, phone $306/year (down from approx. $510), Fairs $620/year. Office supplies, brochures, pamphlets and rewards about $700/year. We no longer have a secretary (saving about $2000/ year). Office space, utilities, equipment, and some art supplies are donated. Salaries, gas, and taxes about $1000. (We don’t pay salaries if we don’t have money).

NOTES from Deborah
Hi everyone,|
      First, I would like to thank you for anything you have done, are doing or will do to support A.E.C. It means so much to us that you would take the time out of your busy schedule to acknowledge that you care. Vince and I went to Battlecry this past weekend and experienced what our teens really want. There were thousands of them worshipping the Lord. The theme was "Normal Is Just Not Enough!" 
     When asked what they were planning to change, two from our youth group said they wanted to stop using drugs. A few hours after making this declaration, one of them asked me if they could borrow $10 for cigarettes. She said she would go crazy without them. I looked her straight in the eye and said, "Cigarettes are what killed my Dad. Nicotine is a drug. What about your commitment? Her friend then said, "You have to quit". She agreed.
    I gave her a hug and said we will be praying for you. "I don't want to put another nail in your coffin. Do you understand, I love and care about you too much". She understood. This is what AEC is all about. Getting people to stand for purity, integrity and truth.  God Bless you, Deborah

NEWS

Deborah and I are both in Toastmasters now, I find the program which teaches speaking and leadership to be incredibly well-designed and helpful. I would like to offer the Youth program locally and several of the Toastmaster said they would help me implement it. So far, we have not had a response. Cornell University recommends it to their MBA candidates.

"Girl Talk" is a fantastic anti-bullying and self-respect program for middle school girls who are mentored by high school or college girls. We would like to facilitate this program as well, but again have not gotten any response to offers that we have made to some of the schools.

Proverbs 31 wife - Baylor University student Alex Eklund, concerned about the reaction of his female friends to the Victoria's Secret models, posted a comment on Facebook (I'd rather have a Proverbs 31 woman than a Victoria's Secret model") which went viral and has started a wave of interest among college students. We added this to our "What is Beauty" program.

 

                                                                                                  

April 15, 2012  As we head into the last 10 days of the The National Association for Moms in Business Crowdfunding grant, we are busy contacting mom bloggers and trying to interest them in donating to our book project. We are also reminding people to register at Peerbackers before April 25. I'm now offering "If It's Soy Sauce, It Must Be Asian" rice and noodle dishes to anyone who registers! 

April 12, 2012 - This has been a busy week, trying to promote our book project, taking webinars on marketing; being interviewed on Blue Zoo radio about the contest, finding out that my letter responding to a Ben Stein article and promoting our book project,  will be printed in Newsmax in June, and  trying to keep up with new Twitter followers and Social moms, and that's just for the contest!. Why am I getting tweets from Thailand and London?  And is there any way to get rid of the tweets from people who have been re-tweeted and are on my page, but are not the kind of people I want? Yikes only 2 more weeks and people are having trouble getting on to donate.
I am still trying to get the hang of blogging on top of everything else. At least,  I found my blog page, but don't remember how I put the tags on!
Still searching for mom's stories.

West Oneonta, NY, March 12, 2012The National Association For Moms In Business (NAFMIB), the leading association representing the fifteen million entrepreneur, executive and CEO moms in the United States has named Arline Saiki as a national semi-finalist for a chance to win a $50,000 package of business growth tools and cash for the Abstinence Education Council.

The grant is expanding and innovating the way mom business owners can get capital for their businesses. The Moms In Business Grant uses the internet phenomenon of “crowdfunding” to give mom business owners a better chance at launching a new business or current business project. It’s the first and only business grant competition to utilize crowdfunding.

The Abstinence Education Council aka AEC-I Decide's mission is to reduce high risk behaviors particularly regarding issues related to human sexuality, with emphasis on abstinence before marriage, by providing information to our community about making choices which are best for individuals, families, and the community as a whole, for their future happiness, health and success. AEC serves Broome, Chenango, Delaware and Otsego Counties in Central NY.

AEC’s goal is to receive $5,000 in the Moms In Business Grant crowdfunding race. Last year, AEC came in second in the competition, raising more than the $2000 goal. AEC is also offering a unique twist to their fundraising efforts this year based on their M.O.M. - Model, Organizer, Mentor workshop. This is a contest within a contest. This year we are using our grant to produce a book about the job of mother as models, organizers or mentors. Wanted are your stories and tips about what you or your mother did to focus or form your family or yourself or how you  (or mom) built the faith which inspired your family or yourself. Help us to create an inspiring and practical book of stories and tips about the job of mom to help guide other mothers and to help fund AEC‘s work.

The Moms In Business Grant Race will start March 12, 2012 and conclude on April 25, 2011.   NAFMIB is calling for local support and asking the community to provide backing to AEC’s grant funding profile.  More information about the grant can be found at www.momsinbusinessgrant.com or to share your story go to this link and check out rewards on the right hand side of http://peerbackers.com/projects/m-o-m-model-organizer-mentor-we-need-your-story-1548539166/
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About National Association For Moms In Business
The National Association for Moms in Business (NAFMIB) is the voice of the 15 million entrepreneur, executive and CEO moms. Founded on the core values of Growth, Balance, Wisdom, and Enrichment, NAFMIB offers education, networking, support and advocacy for moms in business.  NAFMIB is a division of The International Association of Working Mothers is a charitable, tax-exempt, 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to making a significant difference in building and sustaining healthy communities by unlocking the potential of working mothers through advocacy and education.  Through our programs, we serve as an advocate and resource for economic and social justice by providing opportunities for working mothers to cultivate leadership to build strong families and strong communities. Go to www.MIBN.org 

About the Abstinence Education Council (trade name - AEC-I Decide)
The Abstinence Education Council gives workshops and presentations on character development, life skills, health, goal-setting, and relationships for ages 8 and up including pre-teens, teens, single moms and parents in Central NY, primarily Broome, Chenango, Delaware and Otsego counties. We also set up outreach booths and tables at county fairs and at community, college and church venues.


About peerbackers.com
peerbackers is a new way to fund entrepreneurs. It is an online funding platform that allows business owners to raise capital from their “peers” – in small increments – in exchange for tangible rewards to those who contribute. It was founded by Sally Miller Outlaw and Andrew Rachmell of Palm Beach County, Florida.

 

The Abstinence Education CouncilC O M M E N T S
PO Box G, West Oneonta, NY 13861 – 607/433-1730 – info@aec-idecide.org
Volume No. 6                          Issue 17                         Winter 2012    

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We are working on a new outreach to moms based on research which we have reported on before. According to a study from the University of Wisconsin in 2009 by Dr. Janet Hyde, kids who watch “too much television, (have) low self-esteem, low grades and poor family relationships” are most likely to get involved in early sexual behavior. We hope to give our area moms a boost in confidence and some tools to help their families. We will be giving away tips on nutrition, book lists for kids and teens, information on personal growth, have games, prizes, and more. We are blessed to have a wellness center in Edmeston and are partnering with Born Again Books, Shears 2 You, Preferred Toastmasters and LIFE plus some special guests to present a workshop at that location called “3 Steps to Help Your Family Have a Healthier and Happier 2012” for moms on February 18 from 10 AM - 12 PM.  The program will cover - Discovering yourself- M.O.M. the rock (Model, Organizer, Mentor); Developing yourself- the whole person; and Defeating Deadly Diseases- body, mind, soul, and spirit.

 

The Brookings Institution study frequently cited by Rick Santorum, tells us that three behaviors will reduce the likelihood of living in poverty by 98%. That is to graduate from high school; not to have children until marriage; and to work. Other studies have shown that it is parents that have the “greatest influence” on their children.  With the poverty level at 15% of the population, it is up to us.

 

Could Hollywood be opening up to the truth? “The Pregnancy Project” details the daring, true story of a young teen who pretends to be pregnant to highlight the stigma that a teen mom suffers. A recent study by the CDC (Center for Disease Control) found that half the teens that used birth control became pregnant; a third thought that they couldn’t get pregnant; and one in five “didn’t mind” getting pregnant (One of the reasons for The Pregnancy Project” was to highlight the outcomes of teen pregnancies: social outcast, emotional, mental, academic problems etc. to discourage the behavior).

 

We continue to work with the girls at Circle of Friends at the Burlington Flats Baptist Church.  Our next meeting is February 10. Many thanks to Pastor Jay Henderson, for his continuing help and support.

We will be presenting our “What is Beauty” workshop for girls 8 to 12, in Sherburne at St. Malachy’s Church Hall on March 31.

 

I am tentatively planning to try for the Moms In Business grant again this year. We came in 2nd last year and raised $2,000. My endeavors resulted in an interview for their monthly magazine, which may generate some interest in our organization.

We have applied for 2 local grants, as well as assistance from a website class at Binghamton University. We will be hearing from them all in the next few weeks.

 

Dr. John O’Connell has asked me to make arrangements for his free conference on implementing character development in classrooms and in the schools. As I noted in my last newsletter, his program changed the culture in the school system where he was Superintendent, raising SAT scores dramatically and lowering school disciplinary problems.                                                                                                  Arline Saiki, Director  

 

NEWS

Tuesday, January 24 - A 16 year old Ravena-Coeymans-Selkirk High School student attempted the sexual assault of a 17 year old girl in the school elevator. Fortunately, another student intervened and was able to rescue the girl. Children are programmed to do what they see and with the constant barrage from tv, movies, and video games of highly sexualized content, not to mention graphic material even being presented in some schools, this incident is hardly surprising. One has to wonder if the boy’s lawyer is going to try to get him off by citing provocative clothing as “inviting” the assault. When I was growing up, that was a common defense and “fashion” nowadays is almost entirely provocative.

November 10, 2011 – University of Maryland news release – psychologist Kurt Gray with researchers from Yale and Northeastern released the results of a study which found that both women and men who wear revealing clothing are thought to be less intelligent, less competent, lacking leadership skills, and as being less morally responsible. In academic and job situations the perception is that such people are incapable of planning and acting and therefore would result in negative evaluations.  This buttresses a 2008 study done at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse which found that 1. First impressions create immediate opinions and beliefs 2. First impressions are long-lasting   3. Provocatively dressed women appear less intelligent than conservatively dressed women. 4. These impressions can positively or negatively affect acceptance in jobs or graduate school. This also echoes

A May 20ll study by Kenyon College in Ohio which found that one third of the clothing being marketed to tweens is sexualized and that girls who chose this kind of clothing were more likely to have “body image problems” and be “perceived as less intelligent” and “less moral.

Late last year the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS) announced a drop of 9% in teen pregnancies for 2010. "Progress in reducing teen pregnancy has been nothing short of remarkable -- the teen birth rate has declined a stunning 44% between 1991 and 2010. There have been impressive declines in all 50 states and among all racial/ethnic groups. Not so long ago, teen pregnancy was viewed as intractable and inevitable. This report shows that too early pregnancy and child-bearing are 100% preventable.” Sarah Brown, CEO of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.

NOTES from Deborah
Greetings,

The New Year has definitely started out with a "Bang". Every day we are seeing the fruit of the deceptive messages being taught through the media and teachers who are ignorant of the devil's lies. January has been a month of brainstorming and preparation for an all day youth seminar at The Landmark Church called "That's What Love Is". We will be sharing topics such as "My Value", "God's Sacred Creation (Marriage)","God's Way versus Our Way", "Renewal" and much more.

Also I will be attending a girls’ tea party in Greene on February 11th to get to know them before our summer tea party with AEC. At our after-school program in Binghamton, we are sharing relational topics weekly. It is so refreshing to see the youth respond positively to the truth about purity.

Last but not least, Vince and I had the privilege of leading small groups (He with the guys and myself with the girls). We hit on the difficult subjects of homosexuality, crisis pregnancy and idolatry. These teens deserve to know the truth. Their futures depend on it.

Thank you so much for your prayers and support. You are impacting many lives for the best futures.                                                                                                                           God Bless you, Deborah

 

The Abstinence Education CouncilC O M M E N T S
PO Box G, West Oneonta, NY 13861 – 607/433-1730 – info@aec-idecide.org
Volume No. 5                          Issue 16                         Fall 2011   
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     As we watch the Sandusky/Penn State scandal unfold – we have to wonder why the schools in NYC are implementing a graphic sex-ed curriculum for ages 10 and up. Because I work with children at some churches, I have had to take classes on child protection and the very first thing that a predator does is “soften up” his victim by desensitizing him with porn. In one fell move, the city of NY is doing the prep job for potential abusers. It’s astonishing. Who could be behind such a potentially catastrophic decision? Even closer to home is the introduction of the pornographic, anti-Christian novel, “The Handmaid’s Tale” to the Schenevus high school. Pornography is addictive and leads to violent behavior, not to mention imitation. Recent protests by parents had no effect on the school board. With the introduction of desensitizing materials in the schools today at earlier and earlier ages, I’m afraid that our future news stories will feature more and more sensational scandals.

     Many thanks to Advisory Board member Anne Timmins for coming up from New Jersey to help us at Spiedie Fest. Anne recently won the Hawaii playwriting contest for the second year in a row as well as several other writing fellowships. Rose Hogan of Afton also helped us out again at both the Afton Fair and Spiedie Fest. And Jean Jones was again instrumental in getting the donation for us for our booth at the Afton Fair from Afton Baptist Church. Thanks to all!

     We were invited this year to participate in the Community Volunteer Fair at Binghamton University and were happy to have 10 girls sign up as volunteers. We hope to have them help us with some of our projects there. The Davis College Christmas party was cancelled due to the flooding problems, as they are putting their resources to helping the victims. We hope to have a table there next year.

    We unfortunately lost our contact for the program we were planning in Oneonta, but still hope to do something there soon. We found a great mentoring program for middle school girls which we would love to implement.  We have been invited to do a presentation at St. Malachys’ Church in Sherburne. We are working on the details. We have also been invited to be part of a retreat with the Heritage Girls in Schenevus. It will probably be sometime early next year. We will again participate at the Christmas sale at St. Joseph’s in Schenevus as well.

     We are continuing with Circle of Friends at the Burlington Flats Baptist Church. Sharon De Gristina came up with the brilliant idea of taking the girls at our last meeting to the Veteran’s Day program conducted by the American Legion at Edmeston Central School. The girls whipped up trail mix treats with little prayer cards, listened attentively to the wonderful inspiring speech by Gold star mother Mrs. Mayne and gave out the treats as gifts to the veterans and American Legion members at the event. We are so proud!

We have just received an incredible offer from John O’Connell EdD to have a free 2 to 3 hour seminar (plus the cost of materials and any donation for gas) on techniques to raise grades and reduce discipline problems for teachers in this area. This seminar would be:     

1)  based on the “12 Components” in Dr. Tom Lickona’s EDUCATING FOR CHARACTER, (Center for the 4th & 5th Rs- SUNY Cortland)
2)   incorporating much of Dr. Hal Urban’s (Teacher, Speaker, Author of “Life’s Greatest Lessons” ) work, esp. with the first 4 Components…and
3)  sharing “know-how” from implementing the seven Effective Schools Correlates  esp. “Safe & Orderly Environment” and “Home/School/Community

     This is an amazingly generous offer of Dr. O’Connell to the schools in this area. In a previous newsletter, I had noted that his efforts as superintendant of schools in implementing this program resulted in a dramatic rise in SAT scores and a corresponding decrease in discipline problems, in just 2 years. Please let me know if you have any contacts in your school system that we could inform.

FUNDRAISER- GHIRARDELLI CHOCOLATE GIFT SETS -20% OFF – You can place your order at Born Again Books or New 2 You in Edmeston, with free local delivery or contact me at the above number or e-mail address, if you are interested. Chocolate orders must be in by 11/26. There are also some “NuCell”  non-toxic shampoo/conditioners and moisturizer for a donation to AEC of 40% to 50% off retail available at Shears 2 You. Many thanks to Debbie Perlmutter and Suzie Carpenter for their help and support. All of the stores are in the same complex, at 20 West St. in Edmeston.

Why is Abstinence important? That is the question that was asked by the Abstinence Clearinghouse of its members this past summer. My response, which was published in their August 30th newsletter, was: Abstinence education is about self-respect, self-control, selflessness, and self-discipline. It is about becoming a productive, mature, successful adult. These qualities are assets in any organization, in any field, in any sport, in any business. They are vital for a stable, solid, prosperous society. On the other hand, insecure, out-of-control, selfish, undisciplined people are a recipe for disaster both in the home, at work, and in the community. Abstinence education is important because it equips our young people with the tools they need to face the many challenges we have in society today. It's not just about avoiding disease, unwanted pregnancies, heartaches or a host of other ills and problems. It's about being a real person with a real life, who grows into an adulthood that is stacked for, instead of against, happiness and success.

I find it difficult to understand why there appear to be people who are against this.

NEWS

     A recent study from University of Maryland psychologist Kurt Gray and colleagues from Yale and Northeastern University published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that both men and women who wore revealing attire were considered less intelligent, less capable and lacking in leadership capabilities. This is one study that should be impressed upon the minds of our young people. Job searches are difficult enough without one strike against you before you even open your mouth.

     Re: the “Occupy” groups, I urge those who think that this is a good thing, to look at the effect it must be having on our young people. Day after day watching angry people causing chaos and disruption with reports of assaults, public nudity and violence is both disturbing and a bad role model. Children imitate what they see. How hypocritical for adults to be telling children to “behave”, while applauding those who don’t.     Arline   

NOTES from Deborah
Hi everyone,
  I can't believe it is almost Thanksgiving.  What are you thankful for? 
This week has been very eventful.  The Lord has given me a core group of girls to work with at the after-school program I work at on Monday and Wednesday afternoons. Three of them have started coming to our Wednesday night youth group where Vince and I shared "It's Just Sex, Right?".  We had a lot of interaction and are going to continue it in December.
       On Fridays we have been teaching Hollywood's love versus true love.  The teens have learned a lot!  I just came from a small group meeting where a woman shared the pain of soul wounds, generational curses and abuse.  There sure is a lot of pain in this world.  Please pray for Abstinence Education Council to have more open doors to speak and teach the benefit of purity.  Last month I did two 30 minute television shows informing the public about various topics pertaining to relationships, moral values, respect and much more.  We can't thank you enough for believing in this cause and your encouragement, prayers and support.
     May God reward you richly for your faithfulness. In Christ’s love,
  Deborah   

C O M M E N T S 

Spring 2010

Deborah and I participated in one of the first Interfaith panels to be held at Hartwick College. The panel was entitled “Love, Marriage and Everything In Between”. It was quite interesting to discover that two of the ministers did not believe in abstinence. I hope to send them some information to change their minds. We do not realize what a number the media does on us in terms of brainwashing. The Mathematica study which was not scientifically done, was cited as “proof” that abstinence doesn’t work, but the January 2010 study by the Institute for Research and Evaluation which WAS a scientifically done study, showed that abstinence programs reduce the likelihood of promiscuity by 30%.  Comprehensive sex education programs on the other hand do nothing that they claim to do. They neither increase the likelihood of using condoms, nor reduce teen pregnancies. Following is a copy of a handout on the problem of premarital sex, that I gave out (paraphrased from the New World Encyclopedia; “Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children; and chastity.com.)

1.   Hinders personal development: Distracts adolescents from the important things they need to do
 “on the way to personal maturity, creating a family and pursuing…careers.”

2.   Corrupts character: In marriage, sexual intimacy supports the partners’ mutual love. Uncommitted relationships among youth, mainly boosts the partners’ egos. Premarital sex often compounds self-centeredness. Instead of supporting the development of unselfish love, it corrupts, and encourages males to lie and cheat to get sex. “According to a University of Connecticut study of 75 middle-class 19-year-old male students, 65% admitted that they had gotten young women drunk for that purpose. More than half had arranged to enter their date's apartment, and 40 % had used verbal intimidation. One in five had used force or threats of violence. In a survey of University of California students, 1/4 of men who were sexually involved with more than one person at a time said their sexual partners did not know.

3.   Often produces guilt and shame: Many people intuitively feel that they are violating themselves as well as their parents' trust and have to resort to lies. Girls face ruined reputations, while men can often suffer guilt for causing pain for a lifetime. “ College counselor Carson Daly comments, “I don't think I ever met a student who was sorry he or she had postponed sexual activity, but I certainly met many who deeply regretted their sexual involvement.”

4.   Lowers self-esteem: Being used as an object rather than respected as a person can result in low self-esteem

5.   Sex addiction: There are over 13 million Americans being treated for sex addiction. All addictions are destructive of individuals and relationships.

6.   Depression: Brain chemicals such as oxytocin create a real physical need for people. When that bond is broken, depression is often the result. “One tragic result is teenage suicide, which has tripled over the past 25 years in the U.S.—the same period during which the rate of teenage sexual activity rose so sharply. Statistically, non-virginal girls are six times more prone to suicide than are virgins.]

7.   Anti-social and criminal behavior: “Sexually experienced girls aged 12 to 16 are 18 times more likely to run away from home than virgins. They are 9 times more likely to be arrested by the police. The probability of being suspended from school is 5 times greater. Non-virginal girls are 10 times more likely to use marijuana, one of the gateway drugs.” These are similar to results found in boys.

8.   Alienated from parents: Parents can often feel embarrassed, and ashamed when their values and their trust have been destroyed.

9.   Broken friendships: Adolescents, who are sexually active, magnify their feelings, leading to jealousy, feelings of betrayal, possessiveness and sometime irrational rivalry.

10. Emotional disconnect: Both women and men can experience the inability to trust anyone once their heart has been broken, destroying or damaging any future relationships.

11. End of marriage possibilities: Relationships that are primarily based on physical aspects are not strong enough to bear the weight of the day-to-day problems of real life. “In fact, sexual involvement outside of marriage, especially among live-in lovers, is associated with more violence and other forms of abuse than among the married.

12. Possible negative consequences for the future: Comparisons with past partners and the fear of the possibility of future infidelities.


Unwed pregnancies

9 out of 10 girls are abandoned by their child’s father. Suicide is 7 times more likely among pregnant teen girls than those in the general population. Unwed moms are less likely to marry, less likely to go to college and more likely to live in life-long poverty. Abortion can lead to cancers, infertility, chronic grief and guilt.  

Medical

Birth control pills interfere with a woman’s immune system making her more likely to contract STDs. They are also linked to breast and other cancers. One in every two sexually-active persons in the U.S. will have an STD by the age of 25.“Condoms are largely ineffective with common infections like genital herpes, gonnorrhea, human papilloma virus and Chlamydia” STDs are often symptomless, but can be the cause of cancers, viral warts and infertility. One out of every 10 couples in the U.S. is infertile. 
                                                                                                                

One great outcome of attending the Interfaith panel at Hartwick was that we got to meet Chris Deemer of Main Street Baptist, (one of our major supporters) and the director of Campus Ministry at Hartwick and SUCO.He invited us to attend a banquet they were having for the community and I met the head of Oneonta Christian school, and some members of the First Baptist Church in Sidney. I gave them my business card and hope to be able to offer them some programs.

QUICK NOTES

Started a singles group at St. Malachy’s Church in Sherburne - SSEA (Singles Seeking Eternal Answers). The first meeting went well. The purpose is simply to offer safe and wholesome activities for people to meet each other. I started with ages 30 -50, as I’m hoping that once it gets going they will take care of their own activities.

The themes are Friendship, Faith, Fun, Food and Service.

Our program at Mom’s House on April 14 was a great success. Our purpose was to give the young single moms some tools to help themselves and their children lead a better life. Program Director M. Judith Murphy wrote “I would like to thank you for the fantastic workshop on How to Develop Good Character in Your Children and Why. The feedback was extremely positive, and everyone found your workshop very helpful for their current situation as well as for their future.”

Circle of Friends had a tea at the Barstow House in West Winfield. The girls had a wonderful time getting dressed up and learning about the custom of tea. Having positive interactions with trusted adults is a great “protective factor”.

We were happy to be the recipients of a Stewart’s Shop grant again this year. Thanks to them and to all our wonderful supporters!

NOTES from Deborah

Greetings,

I am so thrilled to share that last Saturday our band, Treasure, had the privilege to play for some youth and share the message of God's love, compared to the idols we try to fill ourselves with. We will also be playing for a benefit in Vestal on May 15th. I will be addressing the message of purity and we will have an information table set up. We were also at SUNY Binghamton again with Women Aglow’s outreach in April. For the month of May, we will be working with girls and guys at several youth groups and at Lighthouse Christian School with issues on how to relate in healthy ways to the opposite sex, modesty and respect.

Please keep us all at AEC in your prayers and thanks so much for your support.

God's Blessings, Deborah

         

 
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