AEC- I Decide

The Choices You Make Today, Will DECIDE Your Tomorrow!

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Healthy Mind, Healthy Body, Happy Life

January 16, 2015
We are "creatures of habit" and what we think, say, and do on a regular basis, impacts our life whether for good or bad. Abstinence education is about making good educated choices and avoiding the bad..
It is, for example, a terrible thing that birth control pills are regularly doled out to girls and women for a multitude of things, despite the fact that they are classified a Group 1 carcinogen by the World Health Organization. Unfortunately, because there are groups who profit from our ignorance, we cannot depend on the schools, the media or the government to keep us informed of what is harmful to us.
Women in particular are at risk. The average woman puts 15 different concoctions on herself daily, many of which contain harmful chemicals. I just took the toxic test at and got an "A". But that is because I have been clearing toxins out of my home for years, after having watched so many people fall to cancer and other illnesses. It is up to us to learn what we are doing that can hurt our health, whether it be abstinence from high risk behaviors or from avoidable toxins in the products we use.
I highly recommend that you follow the link and take this test; start to read labels, if you don't, now; and set a goal this year to make you and your family healthier and happier by staying away from the toxic things in life.


Romance starts with R.E.S.P.E.C.T

December 20, 2014
I decided to use the above title as our theme for next year's fair booths. 
My younger daughter got married this summer and her new husband and my older daughter's husband are so romantic! I have been really surprised and delighted. 'My children are so different and their husbands are so uniquely appropriate to them and yet, the men share a lot of wonderful qualities, starting with respect for the girls. Looking at them, I can see that this is the cornerstone of their relationships and romance...
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Spreading the Message

July 21, 2014
AEC has an important message and point of view which is difficult to spread because our culture is 1. antagonistic toward any kind of self-discipline and 2. close-minded about anything that is not "politically correct".
Enter Chatabout. Here is a website that actually pays you to give your opinion! What a great opportunity to use all the research that we have been gathering over the past several years to give informed responses to current news articles. 
For the most part, news is either libera...
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A Real Man Commits!

July 13, 2014
Our theme for AEC's booth at the Otsego County Fair this year is "A Real Man Commits", with COMMITS spelling out strong character traits to look for in your man - Considerate, Orderly, Mature, Modest, Industrious, Trustworthy, and Self-Controlled. After the wedding of my younger daughter a couple of weeks ago, I can now say that these character traits were ones that I see and admire in the men that are now my son-in-laws (my older daughter having married a couple of years ago). I was just pon...
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Five Top Tips for A Healthy Summer

June 9, 2014
I put together some suggestions for our "Girl Talk" girls and thought I would share them on my blog. They are pretty basic suggestions for a healthy summer, but we all need reminders sometimes:

Five Top Tips for A Healthy Summer

1. Get some sleep – Even if it is summer vacation, your body needs sleep to repair itself and to grow. Kids need about 10-11 hours of sleep. From age 12 and up at least 8 ½ hours is necessary, with regular bedtimes and wake up times, to help keep the body’s clock...

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"I want to woo you"

March 13, 2014
There is an expectation that a film that comes from BBC's Masterpiece Theater will be of exceptional quality and "The 39 Steps" is no exception. Based on John Buchan's thriller which is a fictional story about WWII, it is unexpectedly charming, romantic and exciting all at the same time and the performances are superb.
I found this video by accident. I was browsing our local library for a film. My husband likes action films and I couldn't find one without an R rating. I found this one and alth...
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The Character Games

March 10, 2014
Last summer, AEC was invited to do a "lock-in" for a group of American Heritage Girls in Greene, NY. to be held around Valentine's Day in 2014. In January, I shot off an email to check on the situation. The girls range in age from 9-12, so the plan was to do our "What is Beauty" program, which is about self-respect, goal setting, inner beauty and the false image that is portrayed of women in the media. I didn't hear back (not realizing that getting to a computer was not easy for the woman I w...
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A Flurry of Weddings

December 17, 2013

A couple of years ago, I read that fewer weddings were being performed in America. So, it is rather ironic that among our friends and relatives, there has been one wedding (or engagement) after another. It started about 3 years ago with the  wedding of my younger daughter’s best and longest friend. Since then my cousin’s son was married, my older daughter was married, the children of six of my friends were married, my younger daughter just got engaged and 7 more of her friends married in ...

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The Power of Character

December 12, 2013

I have been sitting in on a slowly developing coalition for character in my county. Our organization, AEC-I Decide had tried last year to interest the county next to ours in a character building program for the simple reason that it is one of the poorest counties in New York and character programs have been proven to change the status quo. Unfortunately, we got virtually no response from the local schools which were originally supposed to be our jumping off point.  The schools are ideal as ...

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Copyblogger is having a competition!

November 25, 2013
Having fallen into blogging, I am still uncertain as to what I am doing! But Copyblogger to the rescue. They have daily tips on writing and they are having a contest for a course with them. Following is my entry. The point is that it is important to take advantage of the uniqueness that is you. Like snowflakes each of us is different and each of us is important and special.

You Need Credibility to Crush the Competition
Have you ever won a contest, a competition or a job? To win, you have to be...
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May 11, 2012

Tara Coles is the recipient of the grand prize package of the Moms In Business Grant.  The press release is online at

Congratulations to Tara!  We are sorry we didn't win but Tara did an amazing job. She just blew everyone away with her energy, her generosity and her social media skills. She really deserved this prize.

AEC did raise over $2000 and I learned so much from trying to pick up social media. I have dozens of followers on Twitter now and offers for help from a few of them.

Next on our schedule is a table at the Good Shepherd Episcopal Church's health fair in Binghamton. We were part of it last year and our band "Treasure" will be playing again. I will (hopefully) remember my camera and take pics.

God bless,

April 27, 2012,

Lots of challenges when it comes to abstinence education. I've been taking many webinars and getting lots of coaching from them and from Gina Robison at Moms in Business and today I got this e-mail when I inquired about a mentor with one group. I asked them if I could put it on my blog without giving their name because it is so illustrative of what we face.

Dear Arline,

Thank you for your email.  I’m glad you found the webinar useful.

As to getting a mentor, I can assure you we are trying hard to find one for you.  However, it is proving quite a challenge as the aims of the organization you represent are not acceptable to some people – in fact, I have already had 3 potential mentors turn you down as a mentee. I will keep trying though and hope to find one for you eventually.

I hope this clarifies matters.



Thank you so much for your help and your frank reply. I certainly appreciate the fact that you are willing to help us as this is exactly the problem we face. Many people will not tolerate our organization despite the fact that we help girls avoid the consequences of promiscuity and unwed motherhood, which are: sexually transmitted diseases (and diseases like cancer which result), heartbreak, depression, infertility, and lifelong poverty, not to mention the impact of these problems on subsequent generations. We realize that it is ignorance of the reality of the results of poor life choices and the fact that most people live their lives and make their decisions based on agendas which are primarily aimed at being politically correct and/or for profit. The peculiar thing is that there are few people, if any, in this atmosphere who would condemn anti-smoking campaigns or programs which teach good citizenship. Yet, abstinence is all about self-respect, self-control, and goal-setting, vital skills for every walk of life and in any and all situations.

I know that this is not everyone's viewpoint however, as illustrated by our acceptance as semi-finalists for the second year in a row with the National Moms In Business Crowdfunding Grant competition and by your own assistance and by funding from such groups as the Stewart Shops Foundation.

Thank you again for your assistance.




 Abstinence Education Council 2013

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